The DM slide: an investigation

What is the DM slide? Why do people do it? And why – oh why – can it come across as so creepy?

When I asked women how they felt when a man sent something privately that could have been sent in public, several admitted it made them immediately suspicious. “Why aren’t you doing this on public Twitter?”, one said, adding that “the fact you’re not means it’s probably creepy”. This is something I’ve felt myself, particularly when it comes to replying to pieces I’ve written: if there’s nothing obviously confidential in the content of the message, why does it need to be sent “out of earshot” of our followers?

Read the full piece at the New Statesman.


Northern Ireland’s abortion law must change

After Trump outraged feminists worldwide by saying that women who sought an abortion should be “punished”, I wrote on why British women need to look at Northern Ireland, first.

I am always wary of the idea one need imagine misogyny hurting a mother, sister or daughter in order to acknowledge it as a problem, but I’m also practical, and if that is what it takes to conjure up the appropriate empathy, so be it. Because that is, ultimately, the question: if you couldn’t forget that one in three of the women you know might undergo this, what would you want the law to be?

Read the full piece at the New Statesman.